The Apostle Paul tells us at Ephesians 4:15 to speak the truth
in love, and at Ephesians 4:29 he says to, "Let
no unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for
building up the one in need and bringing grace to those who listen." So I found myself asking God, "How do I
speak something that is offensive, in love?
How do I build someone up when I speak truths that are challenging to their
faith, which they will most likely perceive as meant to tear them
down?" His answer to me about this
seeming paradox, was for me to examine the scriptures more closely.
Ephesians 4:15 says, "But
speaking the truth in love, we should grow up in all things into Him who is the
head, Christ." The Greek word
used for "love" in this
passage is AGAPE. There are four words
in the Greek language for love: EROS, STORGE,
PHILEO and AGAPE. The word EROS was used
to mean a physical or sexually intimate love.
It is where we get the word "erotic" from. The word STORGE was used to mean the natural
affection among family. The word PHILEO was
used to mean a sentimental type of love or a kindly disposition towards
something. All three of these words
infer a love based on natural attraction.
However, AGAPE is a love based on choice, rather than natural
inclination.
In ancient Greek, the
verb form of AGAPE, which is AGAPAO, was used as meaning "to prefer",
as in, a willful, purposeful love, rather than fleeting emotion. Throughout the New Testament, AGAPE is used
to denote the kind of love that is kindled by the Holy Spirit, or literally
"what God prefers, what God wills, what God chooses." Therefore AGAPE can be understood to mean
"a love that transcends human emotion and circumstance and is centered on actively
doing what God prefers."
Therefore at Ephesians 4:15, when Paul says that we are to
speak the truth in AGAPE to help someone mature spiritually, he is not
referring to speaking in a pampering, indulgent or patronizing way. He is not referring to speaking in a way that
spares someone's feelings by compromising God's very real contempt towards
sin. He is referring to speaking truth
in a way that is not influenced by personal opinions or feelings and is
centered upon God's will for mankind. And
God's will for mankind is for all to come to repentance (2 Peter 3:9), and for
all to be saved and come to the knowledge of the truth (1 Tim 2:4). Thomas
Aquinas beautifully defines AGAPE as, "to will the good of another." And when you will the good of another, you
tell them the truth that will save them, even when it hurts.
Ephesians 4:29
says, "Let no unwholesome talk
come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building up the one in
need and bringing grace to those who listen." The Greek word translated as
"building up" is OIKODOMEN, which literally means "the act of
building or constructing a home or dwelling place". Therefore the figurative meaning in the
context of this verse would be, "constructive criticism and instruction that builds a person up to be the suitable dwelling place of God, i.e. where the Lord is 'at home'" (HELPS Word Studies 3169).
I have found that when I find myself frustrated when seeking
God on a matter, sometimes it's because I'm not asking the right
questions. In this case, what I
perceived as a paradox with my spiritual gift was simply me not asking the
right questions. Now, when I properly ask,
"How much of God's truth should I speak to bring a person to repentance
and build them into a suitable dwelling place for the Holy Spirit?"
I can easily answer, "All of it."
“Teacher, we know that
you are true and teach the way of God truthfully, and you do not care about
anyone’s opinion, for you are not swayed by appearances." (Matt 22:16)
"'Teacher,' they
said, 'we know that You are honest and are swayed by no one. Indeed, You are
impartial and teach the way of God in accordance with the truth.'"
(Mark 12:14)
"All Scripture is
breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for conviction, for
correction, and for training in righteousness, so
that the man of God may be complete, fully equipped for every good work." (2
Tim 3:16,17)
"Sanctify them by
the truth; Your word is truth." (John 17:17)
"The Lord is not slow about
His promise, as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing for
any to perish but for all to come to repentance." (2 Pet 3:9)
"This is good and pleasing in the sight of
God our Savior, who desires all men to be saved and
to come to the knowledge of the truth." (1 Tim 2:3,4)
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